Shifting personal energy changes everything!

The Meditation groups have been working on what “energy” is.  They have been learning that when we shift our personal energy, we set new “energetic parameters” or in other words we shift our “goal posts” for all of our relationships.

This doesn’t mean that we are more demanding, but it does set new requirements for people to be able to participate in our lives. Many of us put up with behaviour that we don’t truly like and we make excuses for people.  When we change our attitude to not accepting that behaviour any more, then the energy between us and others change!

A male client, who I will call Grant, recently expressed his wish to divorce his wife, so the energy between them has now changed as he no longer wishes to accept her withdrawal behaviour towards him.  In response she does not like the feel of this new energy from him and is using emotions to “blackmail” him into feeling guilty about leaving her and the children and she is doing this because this action has worked before.

Grant is in fact having to deal with her fear about what she has been unable to become in order to have a relationship with him.  It was a step she wasn’t able to take because she was unable to mirror his new energy of loving and accepting himself and wishing for love, joy, happiness and peace in his life.  It is too much for her to process at this time. She is unable to align herself with his new energy without making significant changes and that is what she is reacting to.

She probably thinks that if she ignores the fact that he wishes to move on with his life with someone else, who he wishes to give love to and receive love in return, she won’t have to face it. But she will, with another teacher, in other words, another relationship which will teach her what she needs to learn.

Since Grant has set an intention for love, joy, happiness and peace, anyone who is unable to resonate at that level of energy will feel very uncomfortable around him. The truth is she feels threatened by his new energy and is frightened as she is unable to meet that standard so she will reject it, and her husband.

I have explained to Grant not to take it personally because it is not about him, it is about his wife and her energy.  Grant needs to continue to maintain the new boundaries because they will bring him joy and know that with each person that he releases will invite another to take their place and soon his life will be full of people who resonate with, respect and honour his energy because it matches theirs and he can enjoy more harmonious relationships.

JUNE 2012

14^th June 2012

Returning from a week away, where  I re-charged my batteries in the sun, I found England wet and dismal.  Everyone I spoke to felt resentful and depressed.   I returned to face legalities connected with my divorce and still no buyer for the house, I felt extreme yo-yo of emotions, between joy (for having been on holiday) and extreme sadness all day. I found myself bursting into tears!

The June 2012 energy we are experiencing is pushing a lot of old emotional energy to the surface, which is why you too may also be feeling sadness or anger that feels very old.  All we can do is to let it pass.  There is a lot of clearing going on right now and we have some heavy energy coming up with the Solstice and the June 24 astro event. There are also big solar flares happening now and they always disrupt our energy.

We're going through a life review now, deciding on the direction for our life and how we are going to manage what, for many of us, is an entirely new way of being. Our soul group commitments have been the focus of our energy for this and many other lifetimes, now we're letting those go and that process can be confusing as we don't know what to do next.

Personally, my obligations to my soul group in which I limited my life has now come to an end with my two sons in their own homes and my daughter moving out in 4 weeks.

The most important thing for me to do now is to stay focused on what I wish to create in my life. It’s been calling to me but until now, I have not been able to listen.

The needs of my family has been my excuse for not moving forward, not embracing my gifts and not reaching my full potential.  Now on my own, I am able to focus on myself and my life, which is a new concept not only for this lifetime but for many previous ones as well. I have started creating some goals for myself and to focus on my dreams to empower my own life.

Perhaps this is something that is happening to you too?  Love family members, but allow them the space to take on their own responsibilities in life and focus on what makes you feel happy.

with love
Heather
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