A lady came to see me, let's call her Gayna. She had been overweight since the age of 8 and had been yo-yo dieting over the past 30 years. On the one side she felt that life was to be lived to the full and enjoyed eating out and socialising. On the other side, she avoided looking at herself naked in the mirror, couldn't run around with her kids and felt totally out of control of ever achieving her goal of losing 7 stone.
There can be a number of physiological factors causing someone to be overweight. The psychological implications are normally related to a situation or person that humiliated you when you were young and you felt ashamed. Personally, I remember feeling totally humiliated when I went away with a youth group to a camp and a boy laughed at me and called me Hattie Jacques. A well-know rather obese lady! It makes a person live in a state of perpetual fear of feeling ashamed, making someone else feel ashamed or being ashamed by someone else.
Gayna had built a psychological wall around her - a barrier of fat to shield her from the demands and expectations of others. She had diffculty saying no and had a tendency to take on too much because she would be ashamed to say no.
She felt sandwiched between two people; doing everything she could to satisfy both. She wanted to make others happy to prove that she was not ashamed of them. While doing this, she was completely out of touch with her own needs.
I feel that those with weight issues are often deeply sensitive. Gayna having been humiliated as a child had caused her to build a protectivebarrier to prevent her from being taken advantage of. She thought she could achieve her goals by being a"nice" person and by taking on other people's burdens. Having now had Spiritual Response Therapy "clearing" in her soul records, it's important now that she realises how to receive instead of always giving.
To help people like Gayna, I'm, starting a SUPPORT GROUP on Thursday 28th March for 6 weeks, to work with people who have tried every diet and still "self sabotage". We will meet every Thursday with a weigh in and a relaxation visualisation, plus Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping). "I will hold your hand" in respect of sharing life tools to enable you to be in control and DELETE self sabotage. You can then move positively towards your goal. It is your birthright to be happy and to take your place in the lives of those close to you. It's time to believe in your own self-worth.
If you wish to lose at least 1 stone in 6 weeks and gain balance in your life, please contact me for full details.
with love
Heather
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