Can a leopard change its spots?

I've always questioned whether a leopard can change its spots and as I was walking home with the dog today, it came to me.

What if over many years the leopards beautiful coat was misted over with other peoples negative thoughts and beliefs?  What if their fears sprayed a further mist over the beautiful spots and changed the image of the coat, so that the leopard when it looked at itself didn't really know who it was anymore.....

What if during a life crisis or indeed a transitional period in someone's life, they understood their "old wiring" and were able to work through a process to shift old beliefs; old negativity and let go of fears?  Then the coat would be cleansed and the true beauty of the leopards spots would shine through.

So if someone now asks me, can a leopard change its spots, I would say No. 

Yet, can the leopard show it's true spots and beauty, the answer is definately YES because it was there all the time!

A Problem or a Lesson?

  

There was some great feedback to last week’s blog about Adam. The topic was about a man in “crisis” and how he took steps forward and what he learned during that experience, about how to overcome the overwhelm that comes with facing a transition and just wishing to run away. When we are faced with an issue, the first question we can ask is how huge is it really?

The truth of how huge anything really is, is relative to the person. For example, driving from London to Nottingham would seem impossible to someone who has recently passed their driving test and is worried about motorway driving. But for someone who is a competent driver, it is fairly easy. A few weeks ago I got ready to leave my house, got into my car and plugged in my Tom Tom.  The green light on the lead didn’t light up.  The gardener had arrived so I asked if he could try it in his van.  No green light.  Time was moving on and I’d promised to collect someone at 9am in London.  I would normally have printed an AA routefinder to the address, but my computer was in the repair shop!

The situation seemed hopeless and I was ready to cry (which would not have helped change the situation).  My alternative was to telephone my brother who is a brilliant navigator so I could drive my car with his guidance.  Unfortunately I took the wrong route and found myself in Hackney which has T-junctions with no road signs!  Eventually with my brother’s help and the person who I was collecting, also ringing me and guiding me, I eventually found myself very near to the address.  I slowed down to allow a bus to move in front of me, when BANG the driver behind hit me!  My mobile phone and bag flew to the floor!  I registered that I’d been hit, put on my  hazard lights and got out to inspect the damage.  His vehicle was completely squashed, but he wasn’t hurt.  I was slightly shaken, but not hurt. The damage to my rear door was minimal.  It was now beginning to rain!  He suggested I sit in my car while he rang his office to get all the necessary details.  Eventually, we politely swapped details and I continued on my journey, suggesting that he paid more attention and to take care.  What could have been a huge “road rage” after the difficulties I had faced, was unnecessary.  Taking everything into persepective, no-one was hurt and the damage to our vehicles could be repaired.  Two hours after I’d left home, I arrived at my destination! The person I collected was a party organiser and he decorated my home beautifully for my special birthday and played a very special part on the day.  He was an angel.

Sometimes what we think is overwhelmingly impossible is something that is just beyond our abilities in that moment and it has a gift for us, to allow us to expand our energy. The question for us is what do we need to learn to overcome this situation and create the way to resolve it, which may mean we learn to do something new or learn to ask for help and let the Universe step in and help us. What problem are you facing this week? How huge does it seem and what is its gift to you?

LOVE

Adam, was fifty-two years old, married to his childhood sweetheart and lived with his  three adult children.  Entrepreneural, he knew to build his business and was tough, proud, short-fused and yet was aware of his low educational achievements, which lowered his self-esteem. 

But inside the pressure cooker of being a responsible, successful businessman, husband, father, son and brother, he had woken up to the idea that his life could have real meaning and that he had potential to fulfil.

He could not bear to stay the same.  It was intolerable.  His life force, his freedom of expression and his freedom to emerge were blocked.  In his earlier life, his life force had often erupted in destructive anger and abuse towards his wife, but he had come to recognise that his aggression was not creative.

Something within his consciousness had woken up.  His self-guidance system was activated.  His energy body was changing.  It was not under his control.  It was just happening to him.  Something brewed inside him over several years.  He began to think carefully about his options. 

Every now and again understandable anger would arise in him as he processed emotional scars and wounding. Living at home became intolerable so he left and moved into a flat.  He had never lived alone before and now had to be responsible for himself.

It was easy for his wife to jump to the conclusion that it was directed at her. But given that changes in the energy body were not under his control, it made no sense.  It was just what was happening to him, like going bald.  She began to understand that it was an involuntary energetic change. 

He saw a counsellor and became aware of how his childhood had shaped the adult he’d become, yet the depression continued.  He didn’t know how to change his “old wiring”

He yearned for contentment and happiness but didn’t know how to find them. He learnt that if he wanted to have a relationship he needed to make it about connection, through love and not through his needs. He realised that he could no longer look for someone to love him because he couldn’t or didn’t find himself lovable, to meet the needs he didn’t feel capable of meeting or to resolve his loneliness.

Every place in which he felt unworthy or undeserving of love is an area where he needed to remember that we’re divine, lovable, loved and deserving of the greatest expression of love in our physical world. But the material love is a mirror of our inner self love. He began to understand that he wanted to see love in his life he needed to become the love he wanted to have, by loving himself.

It is known that our brains respond to kindness and compassion, so Adam developed kindness and compassion for himself, which built his confidence, helped to build better relationships and promoted his health.  It subdued anger and increased courage and resilience to depression and anxiety. 

Jan 11 2011

I always explain to my clients that I never judge whatever their circumstances are. Who am I to say whether someone is right or wrong, what their behaviour says about them or to criticize or judge them based on what is going on in their life? I believe there is no right or wrong, there just IS. All of our experiences are for our learning and growth.

And this week I have had several client readings in which the issue of rejection, came up. The issue of rejection is really quite simple.  We are being reflected back to us our lesson of totally loving ourselves. So it is reminding us what we need to be aware of in ourselves. By being rejected, we are in fact rejecting ourselves. So the energy is stuck until we do or say something to move it. Rejection has no power over you if you have full self-worth. I know that my value is not in what someone else THINKS I am, but in what I KNOW I am! I accept myself for who and what I am.

Each thing we experience prepares us for the next step on our path, so there can be no right or wrong steps because we take each one based on what we need to learn from that situation. What we learn from our pain prepares us to make a less painful choice the next time (or not, then we get to experience the pain one more time).

It would be wonderful if the Universe maintained a dialogue with us that guided us through the tough times, helped us with our difficult choices and made sure we were always on the 'right' path. And it does, through our inner guidance which we can hear if we are listening. But what is the 'right' path? It's the one we are on right now. Sometimes the worst thing that happens is the best thing that can happen and when we over-think, we prevent ourselves from seeing the bigger picture. Our inner compass will always point us to the path that serves our healing and we have a choice as to the amount of pain that involves.

I would like to challenge each of you, for one day, to look at yourselves in the mirror and tell yourself that you are gorgeous, talented, special and accomplished, to see yourselves in the same perfection that the Universe sees you with. Then look at everyone around you and send your challenging life mates a special blessing and remember that they are doing the best they can in this moment, just like you. And then see how you feel at the end of the day. If you feel great, then do it the next day. Imagine what the world would be like if we all accepted ourselves and acknowledge our value and self-worth...

Keep the faith, we're all in this together and time is moving quickly. Become the observer in your life as you stay focused on your path.

  

In these interesting and transformational times, we can be overwhelmed by what is happening in our lives but there are always other solutions. Here are a few things to help you get through the difficult moments in your life:

  

Stay calm, focused, detached and aware and remember your thoughts are creating every moment of your life. Think the best ones.
 
As you ponder this and the other things that are happening at this time remember to:
 
Accept all gifts of understanding with gratitude and use them to apply forgiveness, release and healing to every situation.  

Ask for guidance and confirmation and then wait for it to come to you.

Above all, be grateful for this opportunity to be part of humanity's amazing shift in consciousness as we all ascend into the miracle vibration.