STORYBOOK ROMANCE

I have been meeting many single people recently.  Every one of us dreams of one day experiencing that “storybook” romance with that special person we are meant to share our lives with, our soul mate, our twin flame…

We think about how wonderful it will feel to finally be with that person… look into their eyes… and KNOW that we’ve found the love and connection we’ve been searching for. 

I believed that I had found that someone because when he first met me, he just knew that I was “the one”.

It was a true once in awhile moment, where a man meets a woman and KNOWS very quickly – without a smidgeon of doubt – that he wants to be with her and only her.  He knows he wants to be with her because it feels right on a deep emotional level.

There is no “peak point” or “pinnacle” in love…I’ve realized that love is an exciting journey we share with someone special… and that the journey of love is the summit of LIFE.

This journey starts when you meet that special someone you are meant to share your life with… but it doesn’t always have to have an end.

The key to keeping it alive is getting through the inevitable obstacles all couples face as they become closer and more connected with one another… and turning them into learning experiences which bring you closer together instead of pushing you apart.

This is my eldest and his lovely fiancee

who captured his heart.

A great relationship expert says that a woman that TRULY captures a man’s heart will:

Make a man FEEL, through experience, that he’s BETTER OFF being with her than being single, spending most of his time with his friends, or “sleeping around.”

AND…

Show a man, on a physical AND emotional level, that he’s better off being with her than any other woman he could possibly meet.

For men, the desire for love and intimate connection is often buried under other layers of “wiring” – such as the desire to do things like PROVIDE (financial success)

Many men make bad choices and mistakes in their relationships. But after going through a lot of pain and frustration, and making the same mistakes men often make with great women in their lives over and over, a man needs to make a commitment to himself to become more conscious about why he feels and acts the way he does. To end personal patterns and cycles of destructive behaviour in relationships with women that keep leading a man back to the place where he is ALONE.

Spiritual Response Therapy can give an insight into negative programs running and energies from past lives which is creating the destructive behaviour.  It clears them in the Soul Records and helps you move forward on a more conscious positive path.

It can be done for anyone, anywhere via the internet.  Just email me if you wish to book.

Alone

Aloneness is total and complete. Not loneliness but ‘aloneness’. Loneliness is always concerned with others; aloneness is concerned with oneself.

Do you ever feel alone? A sense of alienation (or aloneness) is actually an epidemic in our culture.
But what if that aloneness was actually serving a purpose? What if it was there to open you to a deeper understanding of who you really are?  And what if your true nature is oneness... the very opposite of aloneness?

Yesterday, 24^th October, was Global Oneness Day. It was dedicated to feeling connected to a global community, to experiencing a deep peace within and to knowing that you are not alone -- that you are at one with all of life.
That’s all very well, I hear you say, but what if you don’t know what purpose the aloneness is serving!

Aloneness is the joy of being just yourself. It is being joyous with yourself, it is enjoying your own company. There are very few people who enjoy their own company. And it is a very strange world: nobody enjoys their own company and everybody wants others to enjoy their company! If they don't enjoy, they feel insulted -- and alone they feel disgusted with themselves. In fact, if YOU cannot enjoy your own company, who else is going to enjoy it? Your aloneness is your essential being. 

Meditation is total freedom, aloneness, the flight of the alone to the alone. There is no other.  One hundred percent mindfulness will be needed -- less than that won't do. 

Aloneness, solitude is positive. It is overflowing joy for no reason. It is our very nature to be joyous; hence there is no need to depend on anybody else. There is no other motive in it, it is simply there. Just as the water flows downwards, your being rises upwards. Just give it a chance -- give it solitude. And remember again, solitude is not solitariness, just as aloneness is not loneliness. You must make a distinction between two words: lonely and alone. In the dictionary they carry the same meaning, but those who have been meditating, they know the distinction. They are not the same, they are as different as possible.

Loneliness is an ugly thing; loneliness is a depressive thing -- it is a sadness; it is an absence of the other. Loneliness is the absence of the other -- you would like the other to be there, but the other is not, and you feel that and you miss them. YOU are not there in loneliness, the absence of the other is there.

Alone? -- it is totally different. YOU are there, it is your presence; it is a positive phenomenon. You don't miss the other, you meet yourself.

If you are alone, you grow, because there is space to grow -- nobody else to hamper, nobody else to obstruct, nobody else to create more complex problems. Alone you grow, and as much as you want to grow you can grow because there is no limit, and you are happy being with yourself, and a bliss arises.

Loneliness is a state of mind when you are constantly missing the other, aloneness is the state of mind when you are constantly delighted in yourself. Loneliness is miserable, aloneness is blissful. Loneliness is always worried, missing something, hankering for something, desiring for something; aloneness is a deep fulfillment, not going out, tremendously content, happy, celebrating. In loneliness you are off centre, in aloneness you are centred and rooted

This is about putting YOU first.

If you feel there are blocks or negativity in your life, or you wish to understand your qualities or what lessons you have chosen to learn, then book a Spiritual Response Therapy with me, which can be done for anyone living anywhere, via the internet.  This will clear them all away in your Soul Records (Akashic Records) and the shift will be life changing.

Meditation classes are Wednesday 2nd November at 7pm-8.30pm in Chigwell Row, Essex

RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN

In the past few months many women clients have been asking me about relationships and how to be attractive to the right men.  The thing about being a woman is that you're already attractive. Really, you are. You don't have to do anything. A man becomes attached to you because he feels safe and attracted to your energy.

In fact - it's the DOING that gets us into trouble. It's the thing we've all been taught to "do" with a man, and it's the thing that just makes our attractiveness disappear. The harder we try, the less interested he is in us, so stop trying.  Just be yourself. 

Some clients have asked me about being attracted to a man and he isn't committing to them. Most women worry and complain to friends, and try to behave as if it was all ok and that they’re "handling" things. As if it was ok, to be treated badly; not being kissed or hugged or spoken badly to. It feels humiliating and horrible.

Ladies it’s important for you to know, that a woman needs to know that she deserves to be loved and feel loved.

So, should a woman pull away from a man who wants to be "friends," without having more and more discussion about his point of view - is this running away?

Is it selfish?  Definitely NOT!

The only way to treat a man who sleeps with you and then wants to be your "friend" is to say how you feel - "I feel feelings for you beyond friendship, and so I don't want to be friends with you just now...and then DROP HIM COMPLETELY OUT OF YOUR LIFE!

Some men don't need more than a “friends with benefits” relationship. There may not be another woman. There may be many other women. There may not be another woman for years. Makes no difference. He may never be into ANY woman. He may frequent prostitutes for all anyone knows.

So ladies what should you do….

1. Drop him out of your life. Completely. NO CONTACT.

2...DATE!

Smile back at all men. Accept every invitation you get to anywhere. Leave the house and be in the company of some man.

Feel what it’s like to be with a man . Yeah, maybe a boring man, maybe a quiet man, maybe a not-so- sexy man, maybe a man you can't or won't fall in love with.

This is about rebuilding your self-esteem in the company of men who WANT to be with you, who want to make you happy, who want to give you what YOU want.

It's very difficult to lift yourself up in the company of a man who always makes you feel bad.

Most women have been through this at some point. Now it's ENOUGH. Enough is enough.

This is about saying NO.

This is not about throwing things away, or belittling someone or yourself, or talking, or communicating, or arguing, or trying to understand, or giving someone the benefit of the doubt, or even getting into your feelings and expressing them.

This is about putting YOU first.

If you feel there are blocks or negativity around you and relationships, book a Spiritual Response Therapy with me, which can be done for anyone living anywhere, via the internet.  This will clear them all away in your Soul Records (Akashic Records) and the shift will be life changing.

LIFE LESSONS

As always I wish to share with you something about the lessons I am learning at the moment, in case they could be of any use to you. 

The lessons I am learning right now are so dark and difficult and I know many people right now are also facing great difficulties and don’t know how best to deal with them. Mine is letting go.  Letting go of the love of my life; letting go of my children as they fly the nest; letting go of my dream home; letting go of sugar cravings and letting go of outcome.  So how am I learning to “let go”?

In September I went to a week’s workshop of drama improvisation and found the key was laughter.  Last week I went to the Festival of Life in London and attended a Laughter Workshop which was funny!  After all, it is said that laughter is the best medicine, whether you are ill or depressed. So if you have a funny film or favourite comedian to watch, do it.     

You may have already read or heard that by the law of attraction, our thoughts create our reality.  If they are constantly reinforced by thinking of them over and over again, they gain a certain power of their own.  They then become “thought forms” and take on a life of their own, like a demon which feeds on fear and misery, which makes you feel helpless and stuck.  Fortunately these negative energies can be cleared by Spiritual Response Therapy, deleting them in your Soul records (Akashic records). I am so grateful that I have been trained to do this clearing.

This will create a positive path for you to take responsibility for your own well-being and to look after yourself by eating healthily and regularly.

Also, to do an activity such as walking, dancing, swimming etc.

And to fight any feelings of depression with determination that the situation will be overcome, by living life to the full by socialising and focusing on others, plus finding the humour in the situation!

There are days when your thoughts will fight to be heard, even when you’re doing your best to change them.  It happens to all of us.  Just send love, forgiveness, gratitude and blessings to the person or event which has caused you pain and recognise what your lesson was from the experience. 

We are each here to learn from each other and there is nothing right or wrong, so don’t be hard on yourself.  It just IS.  And our main lesson is to learn that all there is - is LOVE.  Know your angel is always with you.  Just ask for help.

Have a funny ha ha week!

Heather

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