RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN

In the past few months many women clients have been asking me about relationships and how to be attractive to the right men.  The thing about being a woman is that you're already attractive. Really, you are. You don't have to do anything. A man becomes attached to you because he feels safe and attracted to your energy.

In fact - it's the DOING that gets us into trouble. It's the thing we've all been taught to "do" with a man, and it's the thing that just makes our attractiveness disappear. The harder we try, the less interested he is in us, so stop trying.  Just be yourself. 

Some clients have asked me about being attracted to a man and he isn't committing to them. Most women worry and complain to friends, and try to behave as if it was all ok and that they’re "handling" things. As if it was ok, to be treated badly; not being kissed or hugged or spoken badly to. It feels humiliating and horrible.

Ladies it’s important for you to know, that a woman needs to know that she deserves to be loved and feel loved.

So, should a woman pull away from a man who wants to be "friends," without having more and more discussion about his point of view - is this running away?

Is it selfish?  Definitely NOT!

The only way to treat a man who sleeps with you and then wants to be your "friend" is to say how you feel - "I feel feelings for you beyond friendship, and so I don't want to be friends with you just now...and then DROP HIM COMPLETELY OUT OF YOUR LIFE!

Some men don't need more than a “friends with benefits” relationship. There may not be another woman. There may be many other women. There may not be another woman for years. Makes no difference. He may never be into ANY woman. He may frequent prostitutes for all anyone knows.

So ladies what should you do….

1. Drop him out of your life. Completely. NO CONTACT.

2...DATE!

Smile back at all men. Accept every invitation you get to anywhere. Leave the house and be in the company of some man.

Feel what it’s like to be with a man . Yeah, maybe a boring man, maybe a quiet man, maybe a not-so- sexy man, maybe a man you can't or won't fall in love with.

This is about rebuilding your self-esteem in the company of men who WANT to be with you, who want to make you happy, who want to give you what YOU want.

It's very difficult to lift yourself up in the company of a man who always makes you feel bad.

Most women have been through this at some point. Now it's ENOUGH. Enough is enough.

This is about saying NO.

This is not about throwing things away, or belittling someone or yourself, or talking, or communicating, or arguing, or trying to understand, or giving someone the benefit of the doubt, or even getting into your feelings and expressing them.

This is about putting YOU first.

If you feel there are blocks or negativity around you and relationships, book a Spiritual Response Therapy with me, which can be done for anyone living anywhere, via the internet.  This will clear them all away in your Soul Records (Akashic Records) and the shift will be life changing.