What have you been denying yourself?

What have you not been doing or denying yourself that you now have time for? Are there any things you have not done in the past that you would now like to do? All of the attention you placed on others can now go to you. It would be helpful to make a list of what you used to do for your family and then see which of those things have been neglected in your own life. You might be surprised by how many there are. You may also re-discover some of your gifts and interests that you abandoned because you didn’t have time or because other people didn’t think they were important.
Do not be angry with your family, or hurt by their behavior. They have done their job in your life well, it was intended for them to teach you how to put yourself first, to be self-ish, which means taking care of yourself. Their job is finished now, so you can start focusing on you. What do you value about yourself and don’t answer that question by remembering all of the things your family didn’t value about you. Their value systems clash with yours, which is why they didn’t support or appreciate what you did for them. This next part of your life is about you and your family may eventually value you and your gifts, or not. Until then, set your intention for joy, love, peace, abundance and start appreciating yourself, even if you think you are doing it alone. Then you will begin to attract others who appreciate you and you will create a new soul family that can value you because they value themselves in the same way.