Cortijo Romero

I have just returned from a very extraordinary place, nestled among spectacular mountains in enclosed gardens. I felt I was visiting friends in a large private home where you could help yourself to hot drinks, fruit juice and biscuits whenever you liked.  Sitting at the poolside looking at the stunning scenery, I could feel the energy of  harmony and beauty  cradling me.

I was lucky enough to be given a bedroom in the original farm house which  is built around an enclosed courtyard, with the main group room opening off it, where we “flipped to the fun side” with Alison Goldie each day, learning drama improvisation which was non-stop laughter. 

Just outside the room was a stone staircase leading to a large flat roof, where Brenda taught us yoga each morning, ending with the church bell from the nearby town.  And each night I lay star-gazing and was delighted and awed to see shooting stars.

Not only was this a very special place, it was inspirational.  Two ladies in particular shone.  One had had a mastectomy and had been affected by the recommended drugs, causing joint pain.  This didn’t deter her from travelling alone or from swimming half naked in the swimming pool. Outstanding courage and bravery. 

The other lady had been blind since the age of 16 and again this didn’t deter her from travelling alone, sunbathing and feeling comfortable baring all.  She asked for no help unless she specifically requested it.  Balls of string were attached to the orchard area so when she went down the steps, she could be guided to her blanket for sunbathing.  Her sense of humour and vivid personality were marvellous.

It put everything into perspective and reminded me to be grateful for what I have and to be perfectly comfortable in my own skin.

Will I be going back?  You bet!

31st August

This time last year when my relationship hit apparently insurmountable problems, we didn’t decide to call it a day, with all the agonising pain that involves; but decided that a separation would be the answer. 

Back in 1976 when people wore baggy trousers and maxi dresses, I fell in love for the first time.  Fifteen years old, and we were in big, proper love straight out of a movie, the way only teenagers can be, when you’d gladly follow him to the ends of the earth.

Flash forward a few years and we’re in our 40’s and the cracks are starting show.  The trouble with meeting your soul mate young is that the grass is always greener on the other side of the M25.  He’d see his younger colleagues all having fun, breaking up with women only to meet a new and improved model the next weekend… and he was, there’s no right word for it, envious.  He looked in the mirror, saw the thinning hair and flashes of grey and felt like an old man who had to watch the rest of the world roll merrily by, while he spent weekends laying horizontal in front the tv.  Was he missing out on the best years of his life.  To the 52 year old man, it certainly seemed that way.

I was having doubts too – he could sense it.  Plus there were just too many occasions when he went out and I wasn’t invited! Hmmmm

In no time we were rowing and eventually we both cracked.  I can’t do this any more he said, the fun’s gone out the window, I have to have my own space. 

So we acted like adults and decided to take a break from each other

Although tearful, we both knew things had to change.  So instead of ripping each other’s hearts out, we acted like adults.  So off he went and our separation began.  Did I have fun?  The honest answer is No.  I still went out with my girlfriends which I did before, but did someone come and sweep me off my feet? Not yet…

Did he have fun?  His honest answer is No.  Clubbing, drinking, drugs…. Not his scene afterall. Yet the legal proceedings are underway….

If a couple is truly meant to be together, you can look back and laugh at the year that has flown by.  Easier to do when young and childless, not so easy when older and have kids.  We’re now going to be grandparents in a few weeks and we’re planning our eldest son’s wedding next year.  The ties will always bind us as well as nearly 35 years of memories and dare I say love….

August 2011

I have not written a blog for the past few weeks.  August began with an end of term dinner for the meditation groups which was a very enjoyable evening, reflecting back on how far people have progressed since last September.

Attending a family wedding with my estranged husband was a particularly tough time for me personally but I also believe that this month has been a challenge for many others too.  Thank goodness Mercury retrograde ends this week on Aug 26 the shadow ends Sept 9.  It’s been pushing us to look at issues of what our energy is focused on, what it is being used to create and whether we are happy with the results. You may have recognised more awareness and sensitivity to changes in your life and in others.

I ran “Live a Better Life” workshop this month which was very successful  and Nina was one of the participants. 

This is what Nina said “When they say your prayers will be answered I believed but never thought it would manifest!  After being drawn to Heather after months of being on the mailing list and not knowing who she was, I desperately needed help and I thought well I will give this a go!  Being oblivious to the signs of the universe I went for some SRT and was so overwhelmed I went in despair and came out with a feeling of abundance.  That weekend was by far the worst and best of my life.  Within 24 hours my path was cleared after the therapy and I have never looked back!  After following Heather’s careful guidance I joined the meditation class and in the past four weeks I have grown! I also attended “Live a Better Life” workshop and found it so inspiring.  I would more than highly recommend it is a must if you are questioning what’s going on? Don’t! Please see Heather she IS the answer to your prayers!

I then volunteered as a “Workshop Angel” at Gaunts House Summer Festival which was a wonderful event of workshops, music and meeting like-minded people. 

Having time out to review and reflect I recognised that now it’s important to LISTEN. A lot of us feel like we’ve been treading water. August has been about choices.  Every day we are making a choice to follow one path instead of another because each choice takes us down a different path. We have actually created our choices through our beliefs, thoughts and perceptions of what we think our world should be. 

Some people will experience this transformation through the filter of their fears and have to address their own energetic alignment and integrity (to be true to themselves). They will make choices that include us, or not. They will act from their fear and may decide that the life they have is wrong for them and abandon it, and us. They may become so different that we can no longer be with them. 

What is removed will be replaced by what fits our energy so we can be surrounded by people that we can and want to be connected and who can and want to be connected to us.   So focus on getting your sense of power back and making yourself happy.  Know that you’ll be alright no matter what!

Glastonbury 2011

Everything is Perfect!

There was a Mind, Body & Soul event locally and I organised a workshop on Meditation.  I also offered tasters of Spiritual Response Therapy which most people have not heard of and don’t understand how life changing it is; clearing “blocks” and “negativity” in a client’s Soul records.

I sat in a corner of the stage amongst colleagues offering tarot readings.  It was a very hot day and there weren’t people at the event but most of the tarot readers had clients.  Luckily someone I already knew came to me for a “clearing of energies”, but no-one new.  I trusted that everything was “perfect” and was very grateful to receive guidance from a tarot reader as we chatted! 

Then I announced that there was going to be a meditation workshop in another room.  Two ladies that I hadn’t met before joined me and one of them said how she had enjoyed the meditation and wished to find a local meditation group.  Two weeks later she joined my weekly meditation class.

She was a single unemployed mum of two children and had been experiencing a struggle with her next door neighbour who was creating a lot of noise and disturbance. During the meditation she received an amazing gift of her animal guide, who gave her inner guidance. It was an Elephant, who can teach us that gentleness, commitment, and communication in relationships is very powerful and necessary to keep relationships alive, trusting and loving, whether it be friends, family or partner.  They are the embodiment of strength and power.

She returned the following week and said that her attitude had changed, so when her neighbour made a noise, she turned up her own music and sang loudly, blotting out the disturbance from next door.  She had got in touch with her inner strength and power and had communicated with her neighbours that their noise was unacceptable.  She felt back in “control” and had informed the local council who were going to deal with it. I don’t believe in coincidence and it turned out that one of the other members of the group happens to work for the local council and gave her even more advice on how to handle the situation!   I explained that  things just work out in ways that amaze us, even when it looks like nothing is happening or the Universe is sitting on its hands while our life is falling apart, everything is working perfectly.

Her intention of finding a meditation group and of a solution to her situation was powerful and started the process of creating miracles.  We aren't always aware of the best and most wonderful way things can happen. Sometimes it seems like the Universe is working against us but it’s really creating the best solution for us. That's why it is important to release all attachments to outcomes and know that it is our intention, fuelled by our willingness to believe, have faith and trust in the Universe, that allows the outcome will be exactly what we ask for and it all works out, often in amazing and surprising ways.  She’s now put out her intention of the perfect job…. I’ll keep you posted!

Fear

I have blogged before about the fact that my family has two dogs.  Bella is a Doberman and Vito is a large Yorkshire terrier.  Bella has her name because she is “beautiful” inside and out , but she’s very much a typical dog- she loves digging holes, chewing bones, playing and most importantly, eating. Vito has his name after the “Godfather” and he believes he’s in charge!

When my man said that he wanted a “guard” dog and a Doberman would be best, I shook my head and said I preferred a docile, intelligent chocolate Labrador.  Yet he insisted and rang me a few weeks later to say that he was at a breeder with our youngest son and there was a lovely litter of Doberman’s.  He was so intent on this breed that I relented and went to visit the breeder with our son a week later. 

At the top of the stairs there was a scramble of puppies all climbing over each other to meet me and bite the furry waistcoat I was wearing!  Yet one of them sat up very very straight as if to say “I’m a good girl” and that was the one my heart reached out to. 

We collected her when she was ready to leave her mother and Bella joined our family.  Having never lived with a Doberman before I had no idea how loving she would be and how close she liked to snuggle into you.  I completely fell over heels in love with her. 

She was very jealous of our other dog and several times she would grab him by the scruff of his neck and “rag” him, which was very scary to experience and we had to discipline her until she understood that this was unacceptable behaviour.  There was plenty of love to go round and there was no need for jealousy.

We took her for training as she became aggressive when meeting other dogs and this was fine whilst she was with the trainer, but when I took her out she continued to “protect” me and was aggressive to other dogs.  But at least the training helped her ignore joggers, cyclists and other walkers.

I relied on my man to walk her until recently when the responsibility became mine.  What had she come to teach me?  To face my fear.  Fear of not being able to control her aggressiveness and fear of many other things in my life.

 

Each morning I wake up with the knowledge that I have to take them out and every day I have to face my fears.  I take full responsibility by keeping Bella on the lead and putting a muzzle on her.  I keep alert and when seeing other dog walkers, I steer her into a different direction.  Each day is getting easier.  Slowly I am taking back control of my life and Bella is teaching me how.

Inspiration

Peter Andre is my inspiration for how he conducted himself in his split from his wife Katie Price.  His family devotion to his brothers, parents and children, including Katie’s first child, Harvey, is totally admirable and he’s just won the award for “best Dad” for the 2^nd year!

  

He knew that his marriage to Katie needed to be released, although it caused great pain and has taken him 2 years to feel “himself” again with the enormous support of his brother, family and management team.

The spiritual principle of surrender, which is letting go, is not the same as giving up and feeling defeated, which is what many clients feel when they have to continue to let go, long past the point where they are comfortable with the process. And they turn that into a process of stripping away everything from their life until they have nothing left. Then they wonder what they can possibly let go of because they don't have anything left. Now the real work can begin.

One client has been struggling to keep his marriage for the last 10 months and it has been very difficult. Then a few weeks ago we talked about allowing the marriage to end. As soon as he decided to let the marriage go he felt a huge weight lift from his shoulders. Then came a sense of freedom and joy, as opportunities for change that were not possible even a week before, began to appear.

We cannot let go of everything until we understand our attachments from the level of our beliefs, what we think about ourselves and what we think others will think of us. Wherever we resist release there are strong beliefs that are asking to be released. We see this in a material way but the real issue is energetic. How much of ourselves is centered or invested in that? What does letting go mean to our belief system? How do we feel about ourselves after that is done? What new beliefs do we need to create to not feel that we have lost everything and instead, gained our spiritual and emotional freedom, when we let go? These are questions to ponder now after the eclipse on 1^st July, as we let go until we can surrender to a new life and manifest the promise of the future.

Who inspires you?

Butterfly Love

   

In the workshop “Are you looking for a life partner” I told the group the story of the butterfly, which is the symbol of pure love.  A person with a net in hand chases time and time again after the butterfly and just as the net closes near it, the butterly flutters out of reach.

Just as a person who goes to bars and clubs specifically mindful of meeting their true love, finds it just beyond their reach, as their energy of desperation repels the love they seek.

When a person loves themself and doesn’t “need” anyone to “complete” them as they are truly whole, then the butterfly will come and sit on their shoulder.  By the law of attraction, love will come along at the right time.

As I walked around the fields near my home today, I watched as the butterflys fluttered out of the long grass as my two dogs rushed through.  The brightly coloured butterflys were particularly beautiful and I asked in my mind for love to come and sit on my shoulder.

I continued walking and went through the gate to another section and in a split second a beautiful coloured butterfly flew onto my shoulder!!!  As I registered what had happened, it fluttered away and I was completely blown away as my request had been granted within minutes!

Never doubt that your thoughts are not “heard” by higher energies, whether you believe in God, Angels and/or Guides.  They are listening and helping us every step of the way!

The key is to TREAT EVERYONE WITH LOVE AND PUT JUDGEMENTS AND CRITICISM ON HOLD.  Love All

Love can never be exclusive. The sun does not choose to shine on some flowers in the garden and not others. Love is inclusive and has many faces - caring, listening, sharing from the heart, just accepting someone for what they are right now, are all acts of love, as long as you seek nothing in return. It all starts with acceptance of yourself - you're just fine as you are right now, warts and all. It's not that you will stay that way for ever - but you might, if you don't accept. The secret key to the greatest door called love is acceptance. First your self, then others (especially the ones you currently resist) and eventually ...all. 

To attract, heal, or balance relationships is to realize that the most
important relationship you have is with yourself, every other
relationship follows from there."

Philosopher Soren Kierkegaard “Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards”.  We have to learn from experience, otherwise we keep making the same mistakes and taking them into each new relationship.

I hope that a butterfly lands on your shoulder.

Busy Being Happy

Heather

xxx

22 June 2011

Yesterday was Summer Solstice, the longest day of the year and many people stayed up all night to welcome the rising sun at dawn.  This may sound rather whacky but Midsummer Night was a time to focus on lovers and fortune telling, commemorating the magic of the year's shortest night and nature.  Even Shakespeare used the fairy legends and lovers traditions and wrote about them in A Midsummer Night's Dream. 

As well as the longest day, there are actually 3 eclipses in one month.  We had a partial solar eclipse on June 1^st and we had a full moon eclipse on June 15^th and there’ll be another partial solar eclipse on July 1^st.  Triples are very rare and here we are in the middle of them right now!

These can mean a “turning point” for us or we can be totally unaware of what is happening to us!  These can be opportunities to turn away from or drop the past and old habits. 

But eclipses can also reinforce old habits and the past and lock them in for the future.  Tibetan monks suggest that these eclipse time are times to observe our own mindstream and take notes of what appears to find direction.  Attending Meditation classes or listening to a meditation CD is very beneficial to master “mindfulness”.  (Class dates and CD to order, on my website). 

So, many people will leave negative relationships and negative jobs at this time or old habits of smoking or over-eating for example.  Letting go of the past and old habits will not be easy for most people, but it will open a new door of opportunity that couldn’t be opened until the old door was shut!

If you are unsure of your direction, keep repeating the same mistakes; suffer from negative thoughts or addictive patterns of behaviour or feel confused / fearful, contact me for a Spiritual Response Therapy which can be done via email for anyone, anywhere.  It clears your Soul Record (Akashic Record) of negativity and blocks and can identify your spiritual themes and challenges. 

Wishing you a busy, happy week!

Heather

AM I HAPPY?

Meditation is a great tool to learn “mindfulness”.  Learning just to “be”, we are able to “observe” our thoughts.

Observing my thoughts, if I’m aware of any sadness, I make a conscious effort to flip my thoughts quickly to the positive, otherwise the sad seeds would grow like vines in the rainy season!

By midday I will be confused; by evening a whole jungle of weak, wasteful and negative attitudes will have taken deep roots in my mind. 

The result would equals chaos! 

We all sometimes reach a stage where our attitude may be :

 “So what if I feel the blues today?  It is my life; no one else will be affected.” 

Firstly, the more we allow ourselves  to feel and experience sorrow, the less time we have available to be happy and contented!

It sounds ridiculously obvious, but are we aware of the value of happiness? 

It is an extremely rare commodity, and the cost goes sky high. 

Secondly, do you "feel" it in your life?  If not do you have an issue with a relationship; work; health; prosperity?

These can be cleared with Spiritual Response Therapy.  This healing therapy goes to the very depths of our being.  It clears all programs and prevents further negative energy from accumulating.  It can be done "remotely" for anyone living anywhere.

Each of us are like a pebble in a pond.  When we feel sadness it ripples out….  As members of a family or a co-worker with others, we are part of society and as such our “mood”; our “energy” affects not only ourselves but also others.  How many know of someone who walks into the room and you just "feel" a grey cloud over them?  And others who are a "ray of sunshine".  That's us naturally "feeling" energy. 

Every thought we think is creating our future.  The point of power is always in the present moment.  Affirming that we are “happy”, things begin to happen, because what the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve as the necessary inner and outer steps are taken.

Affirmation -

Loving Others is easy when I love and accept myself.  Everything I touch is a success.

Let go of all doubt and the fear of all appearances to the contrary.  See the desired end result as already accomplished and it will be. 

What if…. It was ‘meant’ to happen the way it did for it to end up so perfectly how it will….’

Thurs 8 June 2011

A bestselling book "Women who love too much" by Robin Norwood says........................

"When being in love means being in pain we’re loving too much.  When most of our chats with close friends are about him, his problems, his thoughts, his feelings – and nearly all our sentences being with “he….” we’re loving too much.

When we excuse his moodiness, bad temper, indifference or put-downs as problems due to his childhood and we try to become his therapist, we’re loving too much.

When we read a self-help book and underline all the passages we think would help him, we’re loving too much."

So, why is it so challenging and difficult to end these unhealthy relationships?  So many women are looking for someone to love them and loving too much becomes an addiction to a partner who is uncaring or unavailable. 

I am one of those women.  Therefore my  decision has been reached that the separation from my man will now be permanent.  As I walk around the local supermarket and look at the biscuits that were his favourite (he’d eat the whole pack with his tea!), the sweets we’d share when watching a good drama or the jar of piccalilli that I had to keep a stock of, I walk on by and a part of me wants to sob.  Yet the other part stands firm that the decision is in my best interest.

I’m sure many people have experienced this dual feeling I speak of. A part of you feels fearful with worry but another part refuses to go there and dwell in it. 

Suddenly all the pieces that fit together no longer do for a time. The ground I walk that was so familiar no longer is and for a short time there is doubt and confusion. I am doing my best to no longer react to this feeling, because experience tells me it is reorganization and will pass in a short time and when it does I will see everything from a clearer point of view, with greater insight and understanding.

In times like this, I understand that it’s best to become an 'observer' of what is happening around me and within me. I know it is not the world changing, but I who am changing. The best “help” I can give this change is not to stop it, but just be the silent observer in wakefulness. I know that in a short time all the pieces of the puzzle will come back together in a new and improved form and I will see everything from a new viewing point!